Originally posted at HeartsConverse.com.
When it comes to relationships and life, we’ve made 30 the magic number. Our money, career, relationships and everything else is supposed to be in place by then. 30 also seems to be the cut off point for the bucket list of our younger days – as if life after 30 is some sort of “death of our youth.” This leaves the 20s for people to try to make EVERYTHING happen.
I can’t say I don’t buy into this belief myself. At 30, I want enough so that I’m not struggling to make ends meet and to provide the basic necessities for myself. But I also know that there will be struggles that always exist, issues to solve, and weaknesses to strengthen – even when I turn 31 and the birthdays after.
Moreover, when it comes to relationships, putting an age on it can be productive but can also bring upon limitations. It could be good to have a complete focus on yourself to grow your assets and having no boyfriend or girlfriend issues can leave your mind free to do so.
But what if you meet a great person and you want to build with them and you’re 26 years old. Do you just say “No! I have to wait four years to commit”? As much I like to believe in speaking things into existence and planning life, I also believe that things sometimes happen (to our advantage of course) outside of what we may originally intend. Which means some of the people saying, “I’m waiting until 30!” will be booed up unexpectedly, and then saying “I didn’t see it coming.” I believe there’s our time and then there’s “God’s time.” And I believe what He says, goes in the end.
Then some people feel they don’t want a family at this early of an age, and as we all know marriage and kids are a different level of responsibility and maturity.
I took to Twitter and asked “Why do people say they want to wait until they are 30 to be in a relationship?” Here’s what a few of my followers said (Edited for grammar):
Because you’ll be too busy and lazy to go through the motions of having more than one.
Some people think by 30 all fantasies would be accomplished & they’ll be stable (financially & mentally) enough by then. Only thing left is love.
Because they don’t believe in young love or love at all. They hide that under their “I’m tryna build my career first” blanket.
All of these comments were valid and true. These are many reasons people believe this frame of thinking.
As far as me, I’m open to whatever is going to happen in my life. I’m not waiting until I’m 30 if an opportunity presents itself and I’m ready for it. But I want to build to that point, instead of jumping into anything that comes my way.
At 30, I could be single, in a relationship, or even married. I rather the latter, but once again here I go planning again. All I know is that I’m going to work on being my best self so that in the end I’m ready for what’s coming my way.
– Natelege Whaley